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Five fifteen in the morning. Eleven men in a gym and not one of them is talking.
The cheap bright lights, because the main bank doesn’t come on until six. Every one of them has headphones in, and about half of them aren’t playing any music at all. Nobody’s filming. Every weight gets put back. One finishes a set, another walks past and gives him a single nod, and that is the entire conversation.
These aren’t athletes. Accountants, electricians, delivery drivers, one who manages a branch of a building society. Every one of them could train at six in the evening when it’s warm and the lights are good and it’s convenient.
They’re here instead, in the dark, losing an hour of sleep every single day of the week.
This video is about why.
The gym was the last room in a man’s life where nothing was being asked of him. The iron doesn’t care about his job, his postcode, his height or what he earns — it gives him an honest answer in one second, with no committee and nothing to appeal against. For a lot of men that’s the only completely honest feedback they get all week.
It did a second job nobody counted. The correction — your back’s rounding, cheers, and that’s the whole exchange. And the spot, which is two complete strangers trusting each other with a hundred kilos over somebody’s throat, with no contract and no names.
Every one of those transactions used to be free. All of them have now been priced.
In this video: the tripod by the squat rack and the queue that says nothing. The widely reported cases that all have the same shape — a clip, a face, a name in the comments, and a correction that reaches a fraction of the people the accusation did. And the structural problem underneath it: you cannot prove you weren’t looking. No camera settles it, no court settles it, so the only defence is not being in the frame.
Then the five adaptations several million men arrived at independently: headphones as a sign rather than for music, eyes on the floor in a mirrored room, never offering a spot, never correcting form — and the hours.
And what the women in that room lost, which is more than anybody: capped weight forever, technique nobody will fix until 2031, and no answer longer than two words.
Plus the seventeen-year-old walking in for the first time, who now learns how to be invisible before he learns a single exercise. And the garage solution — four hundred quid of second-hand iron that solves it completely, and costs him the only regular contact with other men he had outside work.
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Myself n my friends left the gyms.
Found out later others left. Reason. Girl body exposure. They videoing
I hate the gyms more than the women. How tf do gyms let these girls film at the gym. That ia disgusting.
Men and women shouldn't share gym or work spaces.
It won’t be long until women start going to the gym early in the morning as well. They just can’t stand male only spaces or anywhere where men seem to be at peace and happy. That’s why so many ‘men’s clubs’ have been forced to start accepting women members. You never see men trying to join women’s clubs.
I was traveling & hit a gym in SC on a Sunday. It was nearly empty. This one has about 6 Smith machines. I use an end one. A videography girl sets up on the one right next to me. Then her camera is pointed so it captures me in view. Whatever she is doing, i dont GAF. It wont affect me. I will be miles down the road tomorrow. I rarely see women filming like we used to. But does it really matter if she put me in her video to mock me? Insult me? Make me a gym creep online? No. Who cares. I still travel & i tune out everyone else most of the time. I am there to do my thing then i am gone back out on the highway.
When wanna-be influencer women finally drive the last men out of gyms, gyms will go under. The only way to prevent this is to have a no-cameras rule for all patrons. The gym, of course, must have cameras so that when camera-less women accuse men of being creeps, footage is available to confirm or deny.
Up here in the North of England ( the true North of England, not Burnham’s) we have a lot of Gyms that have banned people videoing their sessions, unless those sessions are in the single sex time slots that most Gyms have, this resulted in the number of women videoing their sessions falling off dramatically.
They also asked women to refrain from turning up to the Gym in full ‘battle rattle’ as women invariably do not wipe down equipment after the use it, this results in equipment being left with smears of make up on it, with the result of staff having to clean-up after them.
There are all sorts of university programs for women. Why not build gyms for men?
Simply banned filming in the gym and problem solve .
strange that women shame men for looking at their bodies but have no shame in their appearance in a public place.
My friend owns a gym. he gets his wife to tell women they have to wear more than their underwear and they have a no videoing policy.
This all sounds like segregation. Segregation on immutable characteristics. So based on that and the mindset of those that are driving this, would this not be considered "racist"?
Add in that many women use this situation as bait to catch a stranger so they can get more clicks. Such behavior is beyond unconscionable. It is down right immoral.
I have been going to the gym since the mid 80's. Gym culture has always been inclusive, inspiring, and genuinely friendly. During the bug I built my own gym. I have tried going back. But this social media generation has made it toxic! Never going back…
Gyms need to ban photography/video. "You are here to lift, not film. If you want to film, go to a studio."
We need an all male gym so the men can train in peace
A REASON I NEVER WENT TO "THE GYM"
Home gym solves the idiot factor risk. Like this Great video and spot on!
CADA HOMBRE SE OCUPA DE SUS DEBERES PUNTO NO HAY MAS.
A man trains in the early mornings because THEY WANT TO. NOT BECAUSE they are FORCED! I train at 3am before I go to work and NOT ever felt bad about it. Training early is the best time!
Most city parks have free exercise trails
Missing an hour of sleep may later take its toll not to mention the tiredness in the middle of the day. Caffeine is not a solution. Waking up so early goes against the body clock. Better to join a gym where filming is prohibited.
its funny any girls gyms that open usually don't last long.the ladies rather be where the men are at,yet fuss because the wrong guy happened to look at them.its a vial narcist way to live your life.
This doesn’t work for everyone, but another good way to get around the problem is an actual class. While you lose some of the individualism, you can still get a good workout, and the social element is often genuine and helpful rather than potentially hostile. It can also help you stick to a schedule if you’re just starting out and/or are uncertain about commitment. Part of the reason I love my Krav Maga studio is that it delivers on all of those fronts, while still offering extremely flexible scheduling at a reasonable price.
So the answer to women negatively impacting men's spaces is to stay quiet, rearrange our lives around the brief moments they don't want to be there, or to lose access to the thing that we cherished, and all without saying a word? That's not called 'adjustment'. It's called 'cowardice'. I am beginning to lose faith in this channel having a man's best interests at heart at all.
Two words: home gym. Even if all you do is bodyweight exercises it still gets you away from a gym full of snotty women.
Boycott the gyms until they forbid videoing on the premises. They could set up a dress code too while they are at it. No more yoga pants and booty shorts and crop tops.
Oddly enough I don't get these problems at my gym. I do make sure to not look at women as much as possible. There are women of course that wear skimpy outfits and make sure they go to a place where you have to look. I have also shown two women how to correctly set the ab crunch machine because the way they were using it would hurt their shoulder and both were grateful. I also hurt my shoulder by making the same mistake on that crunch machine
Here is another simple solution: bring a laser pointer to the gym when the female influencer shows up with her camera. Merely walk up behind the camera when it is running , place the laser beam output upon the camera lens and activate the laser. In a second, the laser destroys the photo-optic circuit and leaves the female influencer with a phone which now needs to be replaced.
I’m sad for what women have done to our society.
I workout at home. There is no way I would ever workout in a gym where there are woke females searching for men to record and upload to their tiktok accounts labeled as a creep or a pervert or a misogynist or a white supremacist. NO THANKS! ~MGTOW~
Why don't people start a societal change where, when a female films a fat guy, a skinny guy, or an old guy, people tell her to stop. And have bros have their back?
I'm an old guy, and some female mean girl, I think, recorded me. Anyway, she seemed amused that I was there. I train at home now because females do whatever they want, and no one holds them accountable.
Turned 3rd bedroom into my home gym. No commute, no parking, no locker room, no problem cameras. Workout 6 mornings a week for 60-75 mins. I used to work for a large tech company, they had two spectacular gyms: one for anyone, one for women. Ridiculous and outrageous because it says: women and their feelings must be protected from men, but men on the other hand need to just behave, shut up, and take it.
I retired from teaching at a local college two years ago, and I used to use the college gym. However, one day a girl, young enough to have been my great-granddaughter, wearing tights that hid nothing, lay down right in front of me, opened her legs, and started doing something. I was on the vertical bench press machine, so I just closed my eyes and counted reps out loud. After that, I went to a local gym, usually late at night. Usually it was all men. When there was one female, I stayed away from her, avoided the part of the gym where she was, and didn't even answer if she spoke to me. Sadly, the gym closed when the owner died. Now, I train at home and outside. They f up everything they touch.
I have been weightlifting and exercising for 41 years and the home gym was my answer to this. Lost no sleep… and there are no half-naked people with attitudes walking around in my home gym.
Work out at home.
I typically leave the house for the gym between 10 and 11pm. I train until 1am unless i have no work or nothing to do the next day. In which case, i train until 2:30am.
In fact, I'm writing how i want to reorganize my playlist for each workout.
I'll spot any guy. Usually it's done without words, except maybe a 'thanks'. Both guys understand, do it, then move on. That's been my experience. Meanwhile, I avoid being anywhere near women. (And no, I'm not gay). I now have a weight rack at home and an elliptical, and I go out and run or walk. No need to go to the gym anymore. Anyone else got a home gym and have left the paid-for gyms behind?
I go to a gym that's a little more expensive than the other gyms. There is usually just men in there, but we have a few attention seekers wearing next to nothing. They get ignored for the most part. Where ever the women are, the men are usually on the other side. Can't stand gym girls. Damn cat suits and bikinis. We all stare at the floor or the ceiling.
Why is it that nobody mentions that for the female to catch a guy glancing, she has to continuously stare at the guy. This just happened to me. I sensed someone was looking at me. I looked up and she was like a deer caught in the headlights. After a pause, she said hello.
At least this was a nice outcome (so far). This has happened before, and the female snapped, "What are you looking at…Creep?"
Wear mirrored glasses.
I never liked the gym environment so, when I needed to up my strength for bow hunting, I got the free weights i needed for strength and endurance training at home and adopted a workout routine that I could do at my convenience…..it also worked my self discipline since i worked out solo…..
my home smells better than any gym and I never need to run the gamit of pushy personal trainers or snotty women…..
Train at home
Amusing and very true episode. I go to one of those small gyms around 6 am and there are usually only 3-4 men and rarely women. However, when they show up for a week or two, I actively avoid and ignore them. In any case, the only thing they do is walk on a treadmill and use leg/glute machines so I can still get a decent workout in despite the fact that they’ll pull a bar of a bench for their deadlifts and set it up in the walkway instead of using one of the dedicated deadlift platforms. So far it’s been tolerable. When I travel, I’ll buy a day pass at one of the chain gyms and those places are just a nightmare.
I did the rusty second hand iron at home.
I do a couple of sets in my house every hour that I work (8 hours a day)
I am lucky enough to have a job that allows me to do so.
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